R. Kelly And Drea's Youngest Child Comes Out As Transgender
The child of the R&B singer and reality TV parents comes out on Instagram as a transgender boy
Posted: 06/10/2014 03:02 PM EDT
InTouch Weekly reports, Jaya Kelly, 13, who now goes by Jay, recently came out on Instagram, however, he has reportedly identified as male since the age of six or seven.
A few months ago the teen allegedly said his R&B father did not know, but his reality star mom has been very supportive.
“[My mom] was like, ‘Baby, you know I love you if you were bi, gay, [lesbian], you name it and I would still love you so much,’” he wrote on his Ask.fm page, which is a social platform that allows users to answer anonymously submitted questions.
His sister also has supports him.
“And same with my sister, she told me that she was proud of me, and respects me by calling me handsome and calling me her little brother now, and I love her for that, so you know it was great for me.”
The magazine also reports Jay wears a binder over his chest, but hopes with testosterone treatment and eventual surgery, he can be comfortable in his own skin.
“I believe I am a boy and want surgery, and the medication to help me who I was supposed to be,” Jay explained.
Jezebel heavily critiqued the site Naturally Moi for calling Jay “her” throughout the entire article instead of the gender he identifies as. Jezebel also explained why the obsession with “gender reassignment surgery” is salacious and turns transgendered people into “someone so out of the ordinary as deserving of vicarious gawking.”
Jezebel writer Kat Callahan wrote:
If Jay is identifying as a trans guy, Jay's pronoun is he. What is so difficult about that? Really, seriously, it's one fewer letter to type. I have a hard time grasping why people mess up pronouns like this, especially written. It cannot be that hard. I can understand someone you know transitioning and having troubles using pronouns as you adjust your mental paradigm. However, this is a celebrity kid, not someone personally known to the writer, and it's written, not verbal. There's no excuse.
I'm also not fond of the verb used here "choosing" nor the implication that "transguy culture" is some kind of youth trend. If Jay is a trans boy, he probably didn't choose to be (oh, he might have, that's part of that more genderfluid narrative), but unless you have a quote from Jay saying so, this is a really dangerous narrative to reinforce. For the vast majority of transgender individuals, especially those who identify as strictly binary, there is no choice involved. Gender identity develops and it simply is. There may be a period of slow recognition (or there may not, plenty of us knew when we knew, and we were small children at the time), or there may be a period of internal struggle to be open about who we are, but the narrative of "choosing" and "trend" really trivialises the fundamental nature of gender identity.
Neither R. Kelly or Drea Kelly have released a statement.
(Photo: Drea Kelly via Instagram)