Valentine’s Day is upon us and you can bet your Louboutins that countless couples are gearing up to pull out all the romantic stops. Lingerie, chocolate covered strawberries, champagne, the works.
But why is it that so many hopeless romantics wait until an annual global holiday dedicated to love to actually show their partner how much they mean to them?
Granted, cultivating a consistently healthy relationship takes hard work and dedicating every day toward romance may be a tad bit unrealistic. Still, you don’t need V-Day as the impetus to spice things up in your relationship. It simply takes the willingness to put in the time and effort to show your partner that he or she is appreciated and loved.
So while you pencil in your plans for the holiday of love, be sure to keep the following things in mind for the rest of the calendar year to ensure that everyday feels like Valentine’s Day.
Don’t believe us? Try it and see.
Share 20 Second Hugs. Most times when we greet our mates we give them the quick, habitual hug and dull kiss. But you’d be surprised what a few extra seconds of hugging can do for a person. Make your lover feel extra special by giving them a hug for 20 seconds. Doctors say it will increase your levels of oxytocin, a hormone, which will make you feel closer and more connected. Who knows, that hug just may lead to the bedroom.
Send A Love Note. Don’t just assume your boo knows how much you love them. Tell them...in the form of a love letter. Don’t simply relegate heartfelt notes to birthdays, holidays and Valentine’s Day. Receiving a simple note for no reason at all is far more romantic and meaningful. Even if it’s something as short as “You mean the world to me. Love always (insert name here)." If handwritten notes aren’t your thing, try sending it in the form of an email or cute text. We advise you do it weekly for good measure.
Demand What You Want. It may sound like a bad idea, but when it comes to getting what you want in your relationship it’s important to ask for it. This is probably one of the few instances where being demanding is considered a good thing. We all know men aren’t the most intuitive beings, so rather than waiting on him to give you that back massage or “hit it” in the right spot, guide him with a play by play. It may not feel romantic in the moment, but once he gets into the groove of what turns you on, you’ll be smooth sailing.
Do Something Unpredictable. The longer a relationship goes the more likely the spark will begin to fade. Don’t let the flame burn out in your love life by getting into old habits. Keep things going with a little added spontaneity. Take a random weekend trip at a nearby city or even a local swank hotel. Anything that will take you away from the everyday business as usual. This also goes for the bedroom. Don’t stick to the same ole sexual positions (in the exact same order). Try a little foreplay or utilize toys and edibles. You’ll thank us later.
Don’t Have Sex. No seriously. Don’t have sex. Sometimes sexual intercourse just isn’t necessary. You can experience strong intimacy without it by having sex with the mind. Rather than going all the way, hold back a little bit and keep things on the fooling around side. Kiss. Touch. Feel. But don’t have sex. You’ll see the romance in your relationship reach an all-time high.
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