If you want to know what not to do in dating, you can certainly learn a lot from Karrueche Tran, the on-again-off-again girlfriend of Chris Brown.
By now the entire world is familiar with the Chris and Karrueche love saga. More recently, Brown blasted his once again ex-girlfriend in a lengthy tirade on Instagram accusing her of going on dates with rapper Drake, not visiting him while behind bars, and ultimately chasing fame over her loyalty to him.
"We've got scars, some of them u gave me, some of them I've caused,” the 25-year-old wrote. "That ride or die act we have been fooling the world with obviously ain't working. I was locked up for damn near 4 months and only got 1 visit from you while u was hosting parties and taking secret trips to Toronto, going on dates with Drake!"
When this relationship first started u knew what it was and even participated in threesomes," he continued. "I slowed all that shit down. So let's not try to save face for public opinion because I don't need to play victim so people can take my side. All these celebrity n---as ain't s--t and focus only on themselves. I made it clear to the world who my girl was and made your life equal to mine even at the cost of me not focusing on my career at times. So miss me wit the bulls--t. No y'all know the real.
The “Loyal” singer even took to the stage to publicly curse Karrueche.
“How many single ladies do we got in here tonight?” he asked to an adoring crowd of fans. “Well, I’m single too...f**k that bitch.”
Unfortunately we’ve seen Karrueche be publicly embarrassed by Brown on all fronts. From convincing rumors of infidelity to actually dumping her to get back with Rihanna, Brown has made it very clear that when it comes to love, there’s no one he loves more than himself---even if it means hurting someone else in the process.
But that’s not to say Brown is a terrible person per say. He’s young, attractive, famous and extremely wealthy. Being in a faithfully committed relationship (assuming that’s what he had with Karrueche) may not be something he’s ready for.
The problem, however, lies in Karrueche’s choice to constantly go back to someone who’s already proven himself to be unfaithful, violent and who has bouts with multiple mental disorders. Rather than loving herself enough to believe that she deserves a man who is emotionally available to her and doesn’t drop her when it things get rough, Karrueche did what many women do when it comes to matters of the heart. She ignored all the signs of a toxic relationship, withstood the storm as a ride-or-die chick only to get hurt time and time again.
Judging from her very emotional breakdown on KeKe Palmer’s talk show “Just KeKe,” it’s clear that when it comes to Chris Brown, Karrueche is deeply in love. But what it seems she’s failed to realize is that real, mature love doesn’t look like what she has with Brown. Someone who loves you doesn’t blast you for wanting to advance your career
But it’s far much easier said than done.
Though Karrueche finally seems to be wising up (“I refuse to be repeatedly mistreated especially by someone who claims to love me” she wrote), her tumultuous relationship with Brown is a cautionary tale to the countless number of women who consistently put themselves in the line of fire, only to get burned.
If you find yourself in a multiple-year relationship and things continue to stay stagnant and the same issues continue to arise, it’s a sure sign that it’s time to walk away. Contrary to popular belief, love doesn’t have to hurt in order to get good. A real man who loves you will let it be known in more ways than one. You won’t have to settle or sacrifice your happiness in order to earn his love. Instead of putting up with things you know you shouldn’t be tolerating, women have to start demanding more from their men.
While the Browns of the world are running around singing “these hoes ain’t loyal,” maybe it’s about time men start proving their loyalty instead.
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