There's Nothing Wrong With Admitting You Want Love

Life & Love | Gerren Keith Gaynor | 11/13/2014 | 01:45 PM EST

Serena Williams says she 'desperately' wants husband and children...why do some deny wanting the same thing?

During a Twitter Q&A, Serena Williams revealed that not only does she want to find love again, but “desperately” wants to settle down and have children.

After one fan asked the tennis star if she wanted to become a wife and mother someday, Williams responded, “Desperately. My time will come.” And when another fan asked if she was single, she said “not by choice.”

It’s quite sobering to see a woman so fiercely dominant on the tennis court express such vulnerability off court, and on such a public forum as Twitter. Williams’ honesty reveals a reality that some women choose to ignore: that you can be accomplished and independent and yet still have a strong desire to find love and start a family.


In a society where women are rejecting norms of marriage and motherhood and going after other life aspirations, far too often love has been stigmatized to be something that should be frowned upon; that you if admit that you want a relationship or marriage that you’re somehow weak.

No one’s advocating that one puts love before your career or needs, or even engage dating without learning and practicing self love, but when you get to a place in your life where you are mature and ready for love, by all means go for it.

There’s nothing wrong with being a helpless romantic. Human beings are designed by nature to yearn for companionship, and it’s about time that the culture of anti-love exit stage left.

Rather than telling women that they are stronger without a man, we should be telling them that they can have it all. You can go after your dreams, execute your life goals AND have love and a family--if that’s truly what you wants. You don’t have to deprive one part of your life in order to thrive in another.

Life is about living fully and having all that you want out of it. Don’t let societal misconceptions convince you otherwise.

What do you think Centric readers? Does society stigmatize love?

(Photo: Theo Wargo/Getty Images)

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