When Does The Condom Come Off In A Relationship?

Life & Love | Gerren Keith Gaynor | 09/09/2014 | 10:45 AM EDT

Tune in to Centric's 'According To Him + Her' Fridays at 10 p.m.

Condoms aren’t necessarily the center of most conversations within the context of a relationship. In fact, very rarely does it seem that couples make it point of contention when the condom isn’t used.

With HIV rates holding steady among African-American women, in particular, one would think wrapping it up is not only the preferred option but the only option.

But let’s be real. Couples engage in sexual intercourse without the glove more often than they should. Men in particular admit they dislike the use of condoms, which prompted the federal government to conduct a study on the issue in 2009--though most would concur it feels better to do without.

Still, in the case of condom use when you do decide to longer use it, and if you don’t use a condom at the start of a relationship, do you continue to or do you eventually adopt a condom rule?

These questions will be dissected on Centric’s dating comedy show “According to Him + Her,” and it’s sure to spark an interesting debate.

With infidelity becoming a trend of sorts, not using a condom would not be in the best interest of anyone. While it may feel good to go raw, the consequences are far more reaching. There isn’t a timeline for when to not use condoms as much as it should be an informed, mutual decision that includes getting tested for HIV and STIs. Going condom-less is a very personal and risky decision. If you and your partner agree to a committed, monogamous relationship then by all means leave the condom in the drawer. But do so at your own risk.

No man or woman is infallible. Therefore even with the mutual choice to not use a condom, there will always be a possibility that you’re putting your health at risk. Not to mention, unwanted pregnancy is another risk couples put themselves in jeopardy of.

Until you walk down the aisle--and even that doesn’t guarantee anything--you should use condoms at all times. Live by the condom, die by the condom. It’s the only way.

(Photo: JGI/Jamie Grill/Blend Images/Corbis)

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