Is Dating Within An Already Blended Family Inappropriate?

Life & Love | Gerren Keith Gaynor | 08/21/2014 | 10:15 AM EDT

Christina Milian gets blasted by ex-hubby The-Dream and his ex-wife Nivea for dating Lil' Wayne...but is all the fuss warranted?

In an awkward turn of events, Christina Milian has found herself in a uniquely strange dating predicament: she's dating her ex-husband's ex-wife's baby daddy.

Sounds confusing, right?

Much like most celebrities (and people for that matter) who date within their circles, Milian caught major flack from her daughter’s father, songwriter The-Dream, and his baby momma, singer Nivea, who also happens to have a child with Lil' Wayne--who Milian is currently dating.


Though you'd think it be the public most judgmental on the actress-singer's dating choice, it's actually Dream and Nivea who seem to be most bothered. The pair--who have two sons together--publicly called out Milian for what they say creates confusion among the children involved in their already blended family.

When asked during an interview on how the dynamic was between the four adults, Dream responded:

‘Super dynamic, that’s pretty good, right? But uh, I think that’s what everybody was thinking when the news broke. Well, everybody was thinking that but supposedly Christina. She wasn’t thinking of that at all. I have no idea how she could NOT be thinking of that.’

Then Nivea, evidently not happy about the pairing either, decided to post Dream’s interview on Instagram with the caption “Hmmmm.. drops mic.. #She’sAScareCrow” (for those who don’t know scarecrow is a reference to the Scarecrow from the Wizard of Oz, who didn’t have a brain).

Admittedly, the family's six degrees of separation is more confusing than an episode of The Brady Bunch. But do Dream and Nivea have a right to judge Milian for who she chooses to date?

Sure, seeing your father (and sibling's father)'s ex-wife date your father (sibling's father) can be quite the conundrum for any child trying to master the complicatedness of a blended family, but slamming Milian for who she chooses to date is a little unfair.

Usually there's only a handful of absolute dating no no's, all of which include dating your close friend or family's ex without permission; dating an actual family member (yuck); and dating your ex's sibling or best friend (that's up for debate). Otherwise everyone else is fair game. Who has the right to police who dates who?

It's hard enough out there trying to find love, let alone a decent person to date, and the last thing anyone should have to be concerned about is whether or not your ex or your ex’s ex is going to approve who you choose to spend your time with.

Should Milian have thought carefully before dating Wayne? Possible...but who’s to say she hasn’t?


Maybe the real issue here is that Nivea doesn’t like seeing her ex-fiance and baby daddy dating her other ex’s ex-wife. But that’s more of a personal problem. Children today grow up in a lot more confusion than their parents playing musical dating chairs. The only thing that should matter is that everyone within the family is happy, no matter how expanded and interrelated it may be. As long as the children involved are being loved and cared for by their parents, there should be no concern for who is dating who.

It’s 2014, stuff is complicated. Welcome to the new normal.

(Photos from left: Tommaso Boddi/Getty Images for GBK Productions, Kristian Dowling/PictureGroup,  Scott Gries/PictureGroup, Arnold Turner/WireImage) 

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