Does being in a long-term relationship guarantee a pass to cheat?
That’s what guest commentators and comedians will disucss on the upcoming episode of Centric’s dating comedy show “According to Him + Her,” which airs this Friday at 10 p.m. EST.
ATHH’s Rule 40 says long-term relationships come with two “passes” (aka the right to cheat) and while in a perfect world such a mandate would be clutch for all you unfaithful folk, it’s not in the least realistic.
For one, who’s to say one will be honest about how many times they’ve creeped around should they be granted such passes? When you allow your significant other to cheat, even if only once or twice, you open up the pandora’s box for him or her to continue along a path of unfaithfulness.
While a relationship of any kind, let alone a long-term one, is difficult to maintain, this dangerous rule implies the idea that everyone is incapable of being faithful, and that could not be farther from the truth.
If you find yourself in a relationship where it’s becoming increasingly hard not to sleep with someone else, maybe the real solution is to be single or date someone who satisfies you enough sexually so that you’re not having to hop from one bed to another.
That’s not to say that even in the most loving relationships you won’t find yourself tempted. When you’re off the market, everyone tends to come off more attractive; the notion that the grass may be greener on the other side becomes more and more plausible. As human beings we tend to get bored easily, and we’re constantly finding ourselves unsatisfied. When it’s hot, we want to be cold, and when it’s cold we want to be hot. It’s all a part of life.
But commitment exists for a reason. If you can’t stick with one person, then don’t tie yourself down. That’s the beauty of singlehood and free will. You don’t need to drag someone’s heart and emotions through the mud.
Forgiving someone for their infidelity is fair game, because everyone is capable of falling short of temptation...but giving away passes is a sure way to make a disaster of your relationship.
Sex shouldn’t be treated like a buffet. It’s not open to everyone, and should be treated with care and exclusivity. Be selfish...that’s what what commitment is all about.
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