Finding a mate with the perfect balance can sometimes feel like searching for a needle in a haystack. For the most part, in dating there’s always a give or take in terms of the qualities you’re looking in your potential partner.
The two most common things people look for are physical looks and intelligence - but which one is more important?
On the upcoming episode of Centric’s “According To Him + Her,” comedians and experts will weigh in on the contentious debate of whether beauty or brains is more important in a relationship.
While the least shallow thing to say is that looks don’t really matter, many would probably agree that no matter one’s IQ, if they don’t have the goods to turn you on sexually they’re not worth it. That’s true to a certain extent. No one wants to go to bed and wake up everyday to someone they’re not attracted to. Otherwise, what do you have to look forward to when you’re lying in bed?
By the same token, no one wants to date a dunce either.
Someone can look the part but if they don’t have the necessary components to fulfill the role, they are just as useless. While intelligence or brains is relative to the individual, we can pretty much all agree that a person who doesn’t have it all together up top is a quick turn off. Believe it or not, relationships require a lot of smarts; you have balance a household financial balance sheet, file taxes, and manage 401Ks, investment portfolios and the like. Not to mention for many affluent people, brains is damn near a requirement.
So if you had to choose, what would it be?
Hopefully you wouldn’t be placed in such a predicament. They’re both legitimate deal breakers. Choosing brains over beauty and vice versa isn’t a fair tradeoff. Any ideal partner would have both. However, if you had to make a decision that is fair, one could argue that a lack in the brains department is something you can change, while someone’s looks is generally permanent. You can change the clothes, but you can’t change his or her looks.
The key is to strike a balance. You may never find your perfect ten, but you can certainly uncover that special guy or gal who has a little bit of both. Brains and beauty go hand in hand.
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