'According to Him + Her': Do Soul Mates Really Exist?

Life & Love | Gerren Keith Gaynor | 07/16/2014 | 10:00 AM EDT

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Usually when one thinks of a soul mate, they think of someone that is specially designed just for them. It’s as if God or the cosmos predetermined that special person who is meant to be in their life for eternity, sort of like the perfect fairytale.


But fairytales don’t exactly work in real life where pragmatism rules human society.


So it begs the question: Do soul mates really exists? That’s an inquiry that will be tackled on the upcoming episode of “According to Him + Her” by new hosts Free and Brian Hooks, along with show experts.


The American dictionary defines “soul mate” as a person ideally suited to another as a close friend or romantic partner.


If we were to take the literally version, one would agree that there is such a thing as a soul mate. In reality, there are a multitude of people in the world who would be compatible with you and your dating palette. Whether it be similar upbringing, education or personal taste in music, food and the like, you’ll always have the opportunity to find a soulmate.


Where people go wrong is in thinking that a soulmate somehow means that you will magically come together, get along and ride off in the sunset for that ever so cliche happyily ever after. The truth is, whether someone is your kindred spirit, the Clyde to your Bonnie, the JAY Z to your Beyonce or the Will to your Jada, it does not grant you some kind of shortcut to a successful, loving relationship.


Dating, and particularly marriage, takes you putting in the work. There’s no getting around that. So even if you are lucky enough to find someone worthy of being called your soulmate, understand that it does not mean you’ve won the race. Unlike the fairy tales where the story ends on a climactic high of romantic bliss, in real life true soul mates must continue to work at keeping their relationship intact.


So if you’re fortunate enough to meet a candidate worth being considered your soul mate, be sure to know that anyone with the right variables can always fill that spot should it not work out. You can still have your happy ending...just on realistic terms.


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