When you’re in love, the most natural thing to do is to show your partner affection, for some even publicly. But while public display of affection (also known as PDA) isn’t everyone’s fancy, others see no wrong in it. Some simply view PDA as a harmless affirmation of one’s love, while others find it obnoxious and distasteful.
But is it any different in the workplace?
For couples who work with their mate on the job, the line between colleague and lover can understandably be blurred. On episode 110 of Centric’s “According to Him + Her,” experts and guests will tackle Rule 142: “If you work with your mate, public display of affection (PDA) is expected in the workplace.”
While one may expect PDA at work, it doesn’t make it any less inappropriate. Public affection in the workplace should never be allowed. There’s a time and a place for everything, and what goes on in your bedroom or in the comfort of your own home should not be mixed into business. When it comes to the office, the rules for PDA change drastically. While public affection may be generally accepted on the street, it doesn’t mean it’ll fly at work.
When you’re on the job, you’re not in a relationship; you’re an employee hired to do his or her job. That’s not to say that you have to keep your relationship a secret at work - especially if you’re married. You don’t have to lie about your love life in order to respect your colleagues and the sacredness of work, but your personal life should generally stay out of the workplace.
Sure you may confide in certain co-workers about things outside of the office, but you should never let your personal life get in the way of your job. Showing public affection in the office sends the wrong message. It suggests that employees have the right to mix business with pleasure, which everyone knows is a bad formula for success.
Not to mention, most companies have guidelines on romance in the workplace, citing that it can damage morale and productivity. Having a public relationship in the office can bring confusion and uncomfortability to co-workers and can even damage interpersonal relationships. Besides, no one wants to be that couple who comes off snotty and vulgar.
Sure, PDA in the workplace isn’t the worse thing in the world, but it certainly isn’t necessary. You don’t need to be affectionate to your mate at work in order to show that you love one another. Besides, that’s what lunch breaks are for.
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