In the case an unemployed mate, time is of the essence.
On a brand new episode of “According To Him + Her,” we head to the streets with our Social Media Submission to ask folks what they consider a fair amount of time to float a partner until they get back on their feet. While the answers ranged anywhere from a few months to a few days, one thing was made clear: forever isn’t forever when the money dries up.
Married couples aside (assuming they honor their vows), it can be difficult staying in a relationship with a person who doesn’t have a steady check in the mail. Picking up dinner tabs and loaning out a few dollars might not be a big deal in the beginning, but there comes a point when he/she needs to take full responsibility of their finances—and employment.
While the amount of time you’d be willing to support remains a personal decision, it’s important to note that a time frame needs to be established. Excuses such as “we hold each other down no matter what” and “we’ve been together too long” cease to exist when you’re footing the bill on everything for an extended amount of time.
To be proactive about the situation, be on the lookout for possible positions that would suit your partner. Ask friends and family members if they know of anyone hiring or help him/her with their search online. Your assistance will come off as helpful, instead of nagging.
But, when days turn to weeks and weeks turn to months and you’re the only one financing the relationship, there comes a time when you have to cut the cord. He/She is your partner—not your child.