According To Him + Her: Should You Foot The Bill On A Date You Requested?

Life & Love | Camille Travis | 04/25/2014 | 03:15 PM EDT

Dating Rule 17 says, "If you ask me out on a date, you're paying," and we couldn't agree more

So you finally worked up the courage to ask out that guy or gal you’ve been crushing on for weeks and they’ve accepted your invitation to dinner. Kudos! The question now stands: who takes care of the bill?

In an all-new episode of “According To Him + Her,” hosts Finesse Mitchell and Claudia Jordan will present our panel of experts with Rule 17: If you ask me out on a date, you’re paying. And in all honesty, we agree. Requesting someone to take time out of their day to sit with you—whether it be dinner, cocktails, coffee, etc.—should come with the expectation that you’re picking up the tab.

Covering a date that YOU asked for lets that person know that you’re not only thoughtful, but also respectful of their schedule. It’s the courteous thing to do in a situation you set up.


Of course, that doesn’t mean you can’t [somewhat] control their spending in order to stay within your budget. If you don’t have five-star restaurant money, don’t pretend that you do. Instead, choose a place that won’t put too much of a hurting on your pockets or opt for a more creative date that will create lasting memories on little cash.

The point of the date shouldn’t be to impress them with dollar signs, but rather conversation and charm. And yes, part of impressing your date is footing the bill. If you have every intention of going Dutch (or worse, expecting them to cover the entire date), don’t even bother.

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