According To Him + Her: Is It Ok To Leave A Date If It's Not A Match?

Life & Love | Bené Viera | 04/22/2014 | 12:23 PM EDT

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Not all dates are created equal. Horrid dates are par for the course. But do you up and leave early when there’s no match made over sushi heaven?

Picture this. You’ve gotten a fresh cut and even pulled out your boat shoes for the woman you finally asked to accompany you for cocktails and a nice dinner. She's also dressed to the nines with her red lipstick popping. After about ten minutes you notice she’s on her phone the entire time. When the waitress asks for her order, she never looks up from her phone. You mention it to her, she brushes you off and can’t be bothered to put her phone in her purse.

How about the guy who asked you on a date has no dining etiquette. He pronounces shrimp “shrimps” and yells loudly for the waitress’ attention. You know this could never work and have very little interest in seeing if it gets any better.

Sure these aren’t the worst date scenarios that can happen, but as far as you're concerned it’s a waste of time because you know you’ll never call him or her again, and you won’t take any of their future phone calls either.

If that’s the case, it’s perfectly okay to excuse yourself early from a date that isn’t a match.

A dinner date could last at least two hours. Two hours of agony with someone you’re repulsed by or just not that into is time you’ll never get back. If you’re miserable, they likely are too. Being an adult means making hard decisions. Getting up to leave, although it doesn’t seem polite, is probably best for all parties involved.

Be upfront about why you’re leaving and don’t be rude. A simple “I don’t think we’re compatible and I hope you don’t mind me heading out” will suffice. Also, offer to split the bill. Regardless of who was the annoying offender, if you’re leaving early be prepared to slap down your AMEX card.

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