According To Him + Her: How Do You Tell Your Mate You're Not Satisfied In Bed?

Life & Love | Camille Travis | 04/03/2014 | 03:00 PM EDT

Cliché or not: honesty is the best policy

The age-old saying “a closed mouth doesn’t get fed” couldn’t be more true when discussing matters of the bedroom.

On a brand new episode of “According To Him + Her,” hosts Finesse Mitchell and Claudia Jordan pose the question, “How do you tell your mate you’re not satisfied in bed?” The discussion, albeit an uncomfortable one, is necessary to the overall success of your relationship or marriage and should not be taken lightly.

Consider these statistics. According to iVillage’s 2013 Married Sex Survey, 79 percent of men think their wives are happy with their sex lives, but only 61 percent of women said they are. And while 55 percent of women think their husbands are happy with their sex lives, 79 percent said they are. Disconnect much?

While the numbers only seem to speak to those who’ve tied the knot, it can be inferred that unmarried couples would yield similar results.

So what’s the lesson to be learned? Communication is key and honesty is always the best policy. Cliché, but true nonetheless. The best way to tell your mate that you’re not satisfied in bed is to be as specific as possible, delivering the truth with a soft touch as to not crush an ego.

It would be wise to refrain from belittling your partner or comparing them to a past lover. Rather, explain to them what you could use more (or less) of, how they can better satisfy your needs and, conversely, open up the discussion on how you can improve your grade.

Being vocal about wanting better sex is nothing to be ashamed or embarrassed about. Speak up and watch things heat up between the sheets.

Tune into "According To Him + Her," airing Fridays at 9 p.m. EST on Centric!

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