Should You Lie To Your Partner About How Many People You Slept With?

Life & Love | Gerren Keith Gaynor | 04/02/2014 | 10:00 AM EDT

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Riddle this: you’ve been making progress in your relationship, when suddenly your partner asks you how many people you’ve slept with.

How do you answer? Do you tell the truth or, if your “body count” is a little on the high side, do you adjust the number so not to scare him or her away?

On the upcoming episode of Centric’s “According to Him + Her,” hosts Finesse Mitchell, Claudia Jordan and company tackle Rule 48: “When asked about the previous number of sex partners, men should always say ten and women should say five.”

Lying isn’t the greatest idea when getting to know someone or establishing ground in a new relationship. If for some reason the truth got out that your number of sexual partners is a bit more inflated than originally let out to be, it could ruin the trust in your relationship and open up a can of worms.


Granted, telling your partner that you’ve slept with more people than the ideal number can have its pitfalls. Having an extensive list of sexual partners is taboo in the dating world. With it comes the assumption that you’re promiscuous - and no one likes to be labeled a slut or a man whore.

Of course, there’s no true way of your partner knowing whether or not you’re lying about how many people you’ve entertained in between the sheets. To be on the safe side, sticking to one solid, conservative number of sexual partners isn’t such a bad idea. However, if you decide to do so, it’s important to keep in mind that there’s always a possibility that the truth could come back to haunt you.

Honesty should always be the policy. If someone doesn’t want to be with you based on the number of people you’ve slept with and not because of the person you are, maybe they’re not right for you in the first place. As long as you remember to get tested and wrap it up, your body count shouldn’t be a factor.

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