The Importance of Doing A Little Spring Cleaning In Your Social Circles

Life & Love | Gerren Keith Gaynor | 04/01/2014 | 11:30 AM EDT

Spring time isn't just about cleaning out your should also be removing the people in your life who don't belong.

It’s spring! Which means it’s time to do a little spring cleaning...but maybe not where you’d think. While most people take this time to go through their closet to see what needs to be removed for good, it wouldn’t hurt if some of us took that same concept into the company we keep.

If there’s one thing we know, it’s that everybody doesn’t deserve to be in your social circle. Despite this fact,  many of us tend to keep people around who have no business in our personal lives. Whether it be a frenemy, who seems to compete with you than being an actual friend, or that toxic ex who keeps reeling you back in, getting rid of the dead weight in your life not only removes all the negativity, but it allows you to fully embrace and live in true happiness.

Keeping the company of people who are jealous of you, who tear you down or simply do not add any value to your life are not only counterproductive to your personal growth, but it’s downright wrong. Everywhere you go you’re likely to encounter unfavorable people who may have bad intentions, but it's important to be able to recognize them. Be mindful of leeches. Don’t be deceived by people who try to pose as friends or supporters but are really there to get what they need from you and disappear.


Sometimes determining who’s in your life to help or hurt you, however, isn’t so easy. If a “friend” only hits you up when they need something without asking how you’re doing or showing any genuine interest in your life, it’s a sure sign they’re only around for self-gain and not for an honest, pure friendship. Everyone isn’t meant to be your friend, and the quicker you realize that, the better.

When it comes to your social circle, it’s important to categorize people accordingly. There are friends, then there are associates, who you hang out with primarily in group settings or special occasions. Anyone else is a non-factor, unless of course it’s strictly business.

As they say, you can’t choose your family but you can certainly choose your friends. This new season should be about getting to the best you, and you can’t achieve that if you’re surrounded by people who do not have an interest in your greater development and success. So do a little inventory this spring and start removing the people who don’t belong. It’ll do you a world of good.

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