Side chicks need love too - at least that seems to be the sentiment on today’s television shows.
Characters like Scandal’s Olivia Pope (played by Kerry Washington) and Mary Jane Paul from Being Mary Jane (Gabrielle Union) have redefined how the public views “the other woman,” often influencing them to sympathize with their plight of falling in love (or stealing) another woman’s man.
Though Centric’s new relationship series, “According to Him & Her” says “jump offs have a 90% chance of becoming wifey,” don’t let the hype you fool you.
There’s nothing to brag about when you’re a side chick. Being the other woman may get you a nightcap and a few dates to the nearest chicken spot, but it’s very unlikely that it will lead you to becoming his main chick.
Typically when you’re designated to the role of a “jump off” or side chick, it’s done so for the sake of convenience and thrill - why else would you be on the side and not the main course?
Still, some men cheat or engage in long-term affairs because there may actually be legitimate feelings for the other woman. However, it’s important to keep in mind that just as he may have feelings for the other woman, he most certainly still has feelings for his main woman too. Otherwise, why is he still with her?
Now if one is willing to stick around long enough for him to leave his wife or girlfriend in hopes of taking her place, then by all means do so...just know that you run the risk of it blowing up in your face. As the old adage goes: how you get him is how you’ll lose him.
Unfortunately, side chicks will be side chicks...but let’s not get ahead of ourselves into thinking we now live in a culture where the other woman can prevail.