Loose Lips: Should You Inform Your Mate About Their Friend's Advances?

Life & Love | Camille Travis | 03/07/2014 | 12:00 PM EST

Don't miss Centric's hilarious new relationship series 'According To Him & Her' premiering Friday, March 21 at 9 p.m. EST

There's much to be said about a person who would have the gall to make passes at their friend's significant other, but let's face it-- things happens.


In the worst-case scenario, both parties could take it to the bedroom à la The Best Man where all trust would be lost in between the sheets of an hour-long romp session. Without going to those extremes, what would you do if your mate's friend shot lustful looks your way, attempted to engage you in game of flirting or, worse, asked you out on a date?


On the first episode of Centric's hilarious new relationship series "According To Him & Her," a panel of guests will explore the pros and cons of letting your partner know about their friend's shady ways. While we'll keep things lighthearted, the sticky question still stands on whether that bit of information deserves to be revealed.


Of course, there are a few things to consider-- namely the nature of both relationships.


If you're the newbie to your mate's life and their friend has the advantage of time, proceed with caution. Although he/she is in the wrong for trying to "holler," the last thing you'd want to do is completely soil their name when chances are your mate's loyalties lie with their friend. You could be seen as the jealous type trying to separate a longstanding friendship.


It would be best to handle the friend's advances upfront; let them know you are committed to your mate and their passes are inappropriate. Above all, be stern as to let them know there will be no dates, hooking up or emotional affairs.


On the other hand, if you've got time on your side and have proven your worth in the relationship, go ahead: flex your power. It would be thoughtful to warn your mate's friend about their improper advances, giving them a chance to straighten up. But if the behavior continues, take it up with your partner and let the chips fall where they may.


And keep in mind that disrespect is disrespect. No matter the length of your relationship or their friendship, speak up to both parties if a line has been crossed that disturbs your comfort.


If the friendship (or relationship) suffers, so be it.


Agree or disagree? Sound off in the comments section below! And don't miss the premiere of "According To Him & Her," airing Friday, March 21 at 9 p.m. EST!


(Photo: Greg Ceo/Getty Images)

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