Forgiving Your ‘High School Sweetheart’ When All Trust Is Violated

Life & Love | Gerren Keith Gaynor | 02/28/2014 | 10:30 AM EST

Robin Thicke is pulling all the stunts to win back wife Paula Patton...but should she take him back?

They say you never know what you have until it’s gone, and no one seems to understand that more than Robin Thicke.


Since the announcement of his separation from wife Paula Patton, The “Blurred Lines” singer has made it no secret that he plans to win her back. While the former high school sweethearts released a joint statement that they “mutually” agreed to separate after more than 20 years together, Thicke’s recent vow to reconcile suggests otherwise.


"I'm just trying to get her back, man," he told TMZ.


The singer even recently dedicated a concert performance of his hit song “Lost Without U” to his estranged wife.


Rumor has it that Patton was none too pleased with Thicke’s love for the ladies, and that he may have even been unfaithful - and by the looks of it, it may just be true. It’s also important to note that the couple announced a “separation” and not a divorce, which still gives them hope to repair their broken marriage.


But if you were Paula would you give Thicke another chance?


Throwing away 20 years with the only person you’ve ever loved isn’t necessarily an easy thing to do. That’s two decades of intimacy, comfortability and, more importantly, love. After being with someone for that long, there are nuances within the relationship - like finishing each other’s sentences and knowing what the other person is thinking - that make it difficult to want to call it quits and start all over again with someone new.


Hypothetically speaking, however, if your high school sweetheart cheated on you, is there room for forgiveness? Assuming your partner is honest with you and extremely remorseful, you could certainly work through it. But if he or she is a repeat offender in violating your trust, it may just be time to throw in the towel. No love is worth compromising your dignity. 


Oftentimes, people get caught up in numbers. Sometimes every added year in a relationship makes you feel that much more obligated to stick around, even when things are in despair. And when there’s a child involved, as is the case for Thicke and Patton, it can be that more troublesome.


Ultimately, whether you’ve been with someone for five years or twenty, breaking your commitment in a marriage can be a fatal shot to your relationship, and by doing so, you make yourself susceptible to losing the love of your life...forever.


Do you think Paula Patton should take Robin Thicke back? Sound off.

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