During a recent radio interview, Mariah Carey made it known that she doesn’t take too kindly to nannies who try to outshine her when it comes to her twins, Moroccan and Monroe.
"Unfortunately I have to have nannies but I'm very hands-on. I fire nannies like this," she said as she snapped her finger. "And I hate doing it, but I have to because if they try to make themselves more important in the baby's mind than me," she continued.
Though the singer’s candid revelation may sound like your usual diva quip, it’s clear that when it comes to her relationship with her children, she means serious business.
But can other moms relate to Carey’s concern that a nanny may be getting too close their children?
It makes sense why kids develop close relationships with their nannies. Nannies, who are overwhelmingly women in most cases, are like stand-in moms when the actual mother is at work. In fact, a 2009 study revealed that 66 percent of mothers with young children work outside the home. Considering this, one could imagine the guilt that mothers sometimes feel for not being able to be a constant presence in their children’s lives - especially when you’re Mariah Carey.
Surprisingly, the debate on the power struggle between mothers and nannies or caregivers is one that has gained traction over the past few years. With more and more women balancing work life and motherhood, just how attached children get to their nannies has become a growing concern. While caregivers’ role is strictly to do just that - take care of the children - there’s a sometimes problematic nuance to that responsibility, as it develops a strong emotional bond - similar to the relationship between mother and child. The lines can be visibly blurred.
But do mothers really have a legitimate reason to be concerned with how close their nannies get to their children? Ultimately, children know who their mother is, unless of course, the mother is not as present as they should. Coming in from work late at night when the children have been put to bed and leaving out early in the morning doesn’t make for great interaction with your youngsters.
But maybe the blame shouldn’t be on the nannies. Ultimately, the bond between a mother and child is unbreakable.
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