A Single’s Guide to Being Alone On Valentine’s Day

Life & Love | Gerren Keith Gaynor | 02/11/2014 | 12:00 AM EST

Being single on V-Day can be depressing, but it doesn’t have to be.

On Valentine’s Day, droves of couples will be taking the streets by storm to celebrate their love as they walk hand-in-hand to grab the typical dinner and a movie. But not everyone plans on having a romantic evening with their beau. For those who are single, Valentine’s Day can be a drag. With friends and family likely to flaunt their lovey-dovey night out on social media, you’re probably planning to crawl up on the sofa and watch a romantic comedy that’ll only remind you just how alone you actually are.

If this sounds like you, it’s time to put an end to your private pity party and make the best of the day that’s traditionally designed for lovers. Who said Valentine’s Day was only for couples?

Just because you’re single doesn’t mean you still can’t enjoy the holiday. There are alternatives to celebrating Valentine’s Day with a significant other. For one, it’s important to embrace your singlehood. Just because you’re not going on a hot date, doesn’t mean you can’t appreciate the freedom and liberation that comes with being single. Being alone doesn’t have to always feel lonely. Whether it’s Valentine’s Day or simply a typical Friday night, sometimes alone time is the best time you can have. Pull out some of your favorite movies, pop a bottle of wine and find your center.

Of course, enjoying alone time on the most romantic day of the year is easier said than done, and for some single folk - particularly those who may be  getting over a bad breakup - being single on V Day can be a very depressing and downing experience.

If you can’t bare to be alone within the four walls of your home, try to reach out to other single friends. Everyone isn’t in a relationship. Take this opportunity to bond with other single people. Not only will it take the pressure off yourself in trying to survive Valentine’s Day alone, but it’ll allow you the chance to enjoy the company of like-minded or like-experienced individuals. You can have a group outing or simply stay in to play a few board games or have a candid discussion about life and dating. It may just be a therapeutic experience for you and your friends.

Another way to survive a the holiday is to take out a single best friend, a parent, family member, whoever, and treat them to dinner or whatever you choose to do.

While Valentine’s Day is traditionally celebrated among couples, it doesn’t mean you can’t re-write the rules. The day is a day about love, and you can show love to whomever and however you want...even if it’s just with yourself. 

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