How Complacency Can Ruin A Relationship

Life & Love | Gerren Keith Gaynor | 02/06/2014 | 04:30 PM EST

Getting too comfortable can find you unhappy and single if you don't play your cards right

As the old saying goes, “don’t get too comfortable.”

While that mantra can be applied to many aspects of your life, it especially fits the bill when it comes to relationships. Contrary to some beliefs, the process that is dating doesn’t magically end once you win over your mate or begin to engage in a serious, committed relationship.

Relationships are a lot like plants; you have to feed it water daily and give it frequent exposure to sunlight. They don’t just grow on their own.

Sadly, many relationships never stand the test of time because one partner (or both) tends to drop the ball, so to speak. Far too many people make the mistake of thinking or treating a relationship like it has no true value.

When something is valuable to you, you nurture it, you protect it, you do everything within your power to keep it with just as much effort you put into obtaining it in the first place. Yet somehow people who claim to want their relationship to flourish do everything but continue to strengthen it.

Whether you’re in a relationship that’s only lasted a few months or a few years, it’s important to always keep a firm and solid stance in your dating life. Whether it’s continuing to get to know your partner more intimately (not just sexually) and intuitively through strong and engaging communication, or ensuring that you work in keeping your mate secure and appreciated, it’s important and quite imperative to never become complacent.

Complacency is a relationship killer - far more than people think. While great sex and financial stability are key factors in a happy and healthy union, getting too comfortable can be just as damaging because it suggests that you have nothing to lose, when by all accounts you do.

To ensure you’re being a satisfying mate to your partner it’s important to listen to their needs. Your ability to fulfill those needs will determine where you stand. So if you’re partner is complaining about not getting enough quality time and thinks you hang out with your friends more than you do them, or they simply wish you’d listen more, be sure you take heed, or it can be just the thing that causes you to lose him or her forever.

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