How To Master the Art of Self-Love

Life & Love | Gerren Keith Gaynor | 02/03/2014 | 03:30 PM EST

Rather than focusing on romance this Valentine’s Day, rediscover how to love yourself

As human beings, it’s our natural disposition to seek love from others or give love to others, sometimes even without reciprocation. In the days leading up to Valentine’s Day, take the focus off others and make it more about you.


Far too often people dedicate so much their time and energy into pleasing and loving their partner, their parents, friends and family, that they forget the golden rule to love: love for oneself. Loving yourself is second nature for some, while for others it can be quite the struggle. No matter where you fall on the spectrum, it’s important to understand that self-love is an art that must be practiced daily. Here are Centric’s tips on mastering how to love yourself unapologetically.


Love Yourself...But Say It

While everyone likes to think that they love themselves, very few put into practice, let alone actually believe it. The best way to remind yourself that you’re loved is to literally say it. Whether you’re staring yourself in mirror and saying, “I love you,” or simply repeating it as a mantra throughout the day, you’ll begin to actually believe and feel it manifest in your life.


Celebrate Your Worth and Accomplishments

Sometimes we get so caught up in the now-- particularly in the midst of personal trials-- that we forgot all the great things we’ve accomplished in the past. In order to appreciate the now and be hopeful for the future you have to know and believe that you’re worthy. Even if you have to write your accomplishments down somewhere you can always refer back to, do it.


Do What You Love

Let’s face it, everyone isn’t exactly working at their dream job. But just because you don’t necessarily love what you do during your 9-5, it doesn’t mean you can’t still do what you love. Whether if you enjoy singing, performing or mentoring kids, there are plenty of ways to seek personal fulfillment during after hours or on weekends. Partake in a hobby or pastime you always wanted to do, or maybe something you once did but no longer. Fueling your passions keeps you happy and gives you a sense of purpose.


Purge The Negativity

Loving yourself isn’t always about bringing happiness into your life, sometimes it’s about eliminating negativity from it. The best way to live a happier and self-loving life is to ensure that every person and thing that prevents you from loving yourself fully is purged. Make a list of people and things that only bring you sadness and misery and work effectively to eliminating them for good. You’d be surprised to see just how quickly your mood will change. This may not always be an easy task, particularly when it comes to distancing yourself from people you know aren’t good for you. Love yourself enough to let it all go.

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