When Is Too Young To Get Married?

Life & Love | Gerren Keith Gaynor | 01/13/2014 | 04:45 PM EST

Did Bobbi Kristina move too fast in marrying boyfriend Nick Gordon?

Despite all the chatter around whether Bobbi Kristina Brown’s relationship with her “step brother” Nick Gordon is appropriate or not, no one was particularly surprised when news broke that the two love birds had tied the knot.

So when the pair had shared the announcement on Twitter, there was very little noise being made...although Cissy Houston reportedly had her hang-ups about the union. But to some degree, there is room for pause as it relates to Whitney Houston’s only child getting hitched - and it has nothing to do with the fact that Gordon reportedly lived under the Houston home since the age of 12.

Brown, 20, who isn’t even able to legally drink, wasted no time walking down the aisle, however, when you consider her age, could she have moved a little too quickly?

It’s not like Bobbi Kristina lived a sheltered life with an example of a healthy relationship growing up as a child. With both her parents’ history of drug abuse - and physical abuse, according to Whitney herself - it’s very likely that her dysfunctional upbringing could critically impact her dating life and decisions.

Moreover, 20 years old is not the most ideal age for one to be married. At 20, you barely know who you are and what you want out of life, let alone who you want to spend the rest of your life with. While marrying at a young age was the norm before women began having more choices and opportunities in education and in the workforce, in 2014 it’s pretty universally understood that a 20-year-old may not be the best age to commit yourself to someone in holy matrimony.

Though Bobbi Kristina’s situation is unique in the sense that she has financial stability and has Hollywood connections - oh, and the Houston name - to ensure a successful career in whatever she chooses to do, it does not negate the fact that her age may play a critical role in her relationship, one that could encounter some major issues. But for those who are not a Bobbi Kristina, being a bride or groom at a young age can be even more of a disaster.

Who’s to say that after puberty has finally settled that you or your partner won’t want more or better? What happens if your ideals or what you expect from the marriage changes as you get older and wiser? How do you keep a marriage intact when you’re constantly growing in your 20s? While marriage may seem like a great idea and the most logical step when you’re “in love,” most times it’s more of a romantical fixation with being in love than actually having it.

Of course, there are plenty of people who fall in love with their high school or college sweetheart and the marriage turns out to be just fine. But those types of relationships pale in comparison to the many others that crash and burn because the parties moved too fast or failed to be realistic in the way they engage one another. Love is a great thing to have, but even if you think you’ve found the one, what’s the rush? Why not let each other live life and discover oneself before making the ultimate decision to be together until death do you part?

There’s no perfect age to get married, but in some cases, there is such thing as moving too fast.

Do you think there’s such thing as being too young to get married?

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