Tamar Braxton said it best: “Ain’t nothing like being alone at Christmas,” as sung on her holiday single, “She Can Have You.”
That lyric could not be more true. The holiday is supposed to be a joyous time, where loved ones gather to be merry and appreciate all the joys that life brings. Unfortunately, not everyone spends Christmas surrounded by a dozen faces with tons of gifts under the Christmas tree. Some-- whether by choice or not-- end up spending the holiday alone.
Of course, being alone for Christmas can mean different things for different people. Some may literally sit alone in an empty house with a glass of spiked eggnog while watching a Christmas flick, while others may spend time with family, but feel alone because they don’t have that special guy or gal to spend the holiday with.
Whether you’re literally or figuratively alone for Christmas, there’s a guide to tending your loneliness.
For one, it’s important to remind yourself that Christmas is just one day. Sometimes its symbolism and cultural importance heightens our anxiety when we end up not having the kind of Christmas we see on the television screens. But everyone can’t have the kind of picture-perfect Christmas like the Mitchell’s on Moesha.
If you find yourself feeling a little blue, go out and surround yourself with the people you love most. Even if you don’t have a lot of people to lean on during the holiday, there should still be that one person who you can depend on.
If family and friends are far away, use the day to visit a local soup kitchen and volunteer your time. You’ll soon discover that you have far more to be thankful for than you’d think. If your state of loneliness is the result of a bad breakup or simply not having a romantic companion to cling to, surround yourself with your closest loved ones who are going to remind you that the greatest love you can have is the unconditional love of your family and friends. No man or woman deserves to take away your happiness.
Whatever you decide to do, keep in mind that it’s not the end of the world if you happen to be alone this Christmas. Holiday cheer is a state of the mind, and happiness can be just around the corner if you open up your heart and mind.