One of the many reasons Rihanna’s devoted "Navy" loves her is because of the intimate relationship she has with her fans. In a private message, Riri offered her advice to a fan who was having trouble with trust issues.
Over the weekend a fan sent the Bajan beauty a DM on Twitter asking for encouragement. “Hey Rih, I hope it’s not a bad time to message. Just been down lately and wondering if you had any words of encouragement. Trust issues with men.”
To the fan’s surprise the superstar replied with some solid advice. First she offered introspection of her own experiences.
“Anytime I have trust issues, I often assume that it has a lot to do with myself,” Rihanna said. “Most of the time it’s difficult to differentiate. Intuition and insecurities! But no one ever wants to wait to figure it out. Whatever we do, we don’t want to feel stupid! So we tend to jump the gun with no evidence to back it up. That’s the biggest mistake anyone could ever make.”
“My advice, which is exactly what I’ve done, is if sh-t isn’t making sense to me, I’m out. I mean cold turkey! I always need to step out of it to see it for what it is cuz I refuse to let a man play me. If he has no respect, he just doesn’t! But you don’t have to allow it or be bound by it.”
Yes, Ri! All truth.
It’s natural for men and women to have insecurities, but one has to recognize if their feeling is one of intuition or insecurity. Intuition is the gnawing gut feeling that something isn’t right. Usually it’s because something isn’t. Rihanna says jumping the gun without any evidence is a big mistake. To an extent we agree. However, ignoring one’s intuition, especially for women, is partly why women stay in relationships way longer than they should.
Trust and communication are two of the most important aspects of a relationship. If you have trust issues that is something only you can focus on. And you have to get to the root of why and actively work on not having trust issues. Then there’s trusting someone, but knowing it’s something seems suspect. This is the time to follow your intuition.
Rihanna’s advice of not letting a man play her and leaving without any explanation is gold because usually we’re told to work through it no matter what. Sometimes leaving is the best thing to do. Rihanna has definitely learned from her past relationships.
What do you think about Rihanna’s advice? Solid or faulty?