Porsha Stewart Overcomes Divorce, Finds Her Voice Again [Exclusive]

Life & Love | Gerren Keith Gaynor | 11/20/2013 | 11:00 AM EST

The Atlanta beauty speaks on heartbreak and triumph

Reality star Porsha Stewart was first introduced to the television world as the Atlanta housewife who had it all. Stunningly beautiful and married to the man of her dreams-- who happened to be a former NFL quarterback-- Stewart was riding high off of her charmed life that seemed almost too good to be true. But then suddenly, things came tumbling down. After silent bouts in her marriage, Stewart devastatingly discovered that her husband filed for divorce--on Twitter.

In a sit-down interview with CentricTV.com, Stewart doesn’t shy away from her very public divorce. “It’s plain-out embarrassing,” she says. “I don’t care who you think you are or how beautiful you think you are, it’s embarrassing. I went hard for my marriage.”

These days, however, the tide has settled and Stewart has emerged a new woman. The 32-year-old, who is the granddaughter of Civil Rights activist Hosea Williams, walks with a certain demeanor that reads, “I have overcome” - and indeed she has.

Stewart says divorce has taught her a lot about herself, including not letting it ruin her chances at finding love again. “I had to work on myself and make sure I didn’t turn bitter because I am still of baby-making age and I definitely want to get married again. I did not want my heart to become hardened,” she says. “Through that situation, I’ve learned my worth and my value.”

Now, Stewart is using her story, currently being broadcasted to millions, as a testimony and learning tool for other people who may find themselves in the shoes she filled not too long ago. “When you go through a breakup it can be depressing at first, but you have to get your hope back so you’re not hopeless.” Stewart says confidently.

The newly-cemented bachelorette does admit that getting over heartache isn’t always easy. “I still wanted to make it work. When I look back on it now I think ‘did I really or was it denial?’" she says. "It’s not going to go away overnight. Therefore that pain is not going to go away overnight. But if you’re going through a breakup. Give yourself time to heal. Write a checklist and say these are the characteristics that this person had that harmed me, and this is not what I’m going to deal with and move forward.”

Another major piece to moving passed a bad breakup, Stewart says, is taking accountability in the relationship and learning to let go. “You need to be able to accept some blame for what happened and not just point the finger,” she says. “You don’t have to hate the person. You can forgive them and find some closure.”

Porsha is looking onward with not just a new attitude but new business ventures as well. Currently she owns her new hair line, Naked Hair, which is 100 percent human hair. Its inception, she says, was inspired from her trials of being under the microscope of television and the media. “I was very vulnerable in the public eye in dealing with [the divorce] and I felt naked. At the end of the day once you strip down, all you have is your hair.”

The businesswoman is also working on a teeth whitening company and is set to make her musical debut with her first single, “Perfectly Worthless” (written by Pierre Medor) - a song she says is personal and speaks from the heart. Stewart will also be stretching her acting chops and putting her vocals to work in the musical, “A Mother’s Love,” with her reality co-star Kandi Burruss, who’s also the play’s writer and producer.

As for the single life? Stewart says she’s doing just fine, and by the looks of it, she couldn’t be more happy. “I’ve definitely become more spiritual out of the situation and I’ve re-focused my energy,” she says. “I’m getting my joy back and nobody can steal that from me.”

(Photo: Courtesy of Porsha Stewart)

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