After hearing so many negative things about her, I wanted to know why in the world did he continue to date her, when he knew it wasn't working for him. So I asked him. His response: Im dating her because shes helping me become more patient as a person and in doing so Im preparing myself for the true woman I want to be with when she comes along. Im pretty sure the ground was not prepared for how heavy my jaw was when it fell from my face. I was shocked. Heres this poor woman---who like so many women and men has apparently missed every opportunity under the sun to grow into her full potentialwho's dating a brother who is "intelligent, professional, independent, caring, and thoughtful." A man she thinks is accommodating her weaknesses...like a teammate would. Little does she know, she's being used like a field house tackle dummy. Shes going to be surprised when he leaves her in a few months once he attains his "patience goal. " Generally speaking, when you begin dating someone and you cant see anything good coming of it, you should probably forfeit the game while youre ahead. One should not use people for "practice." There are no "scrimmage games" in real life. Things happen, and they happen in real time. I seriously doubt that if the tables were turned, and my boy was the usee, rather than the user, he would be so dismissive of the fact that he's actually doing his bratty girlfriend a disservice. Have you ever used someone to help you become the object of another lover's eye?