Model and past Culturelist guest Cynthia Bailey revealed she suffered from uterine fibroids on Sunday’s episode of Real Housewives of Atlanta. Her husband Peter Thomas wasn’t exactly the most empathetic either. Frankly, he was rude.
Over the summer Cynthia wore a fitted lace dress to the 2013 Miss USA Competition that ignited a rumor that the 46-year-old star was pregnant. Cynthia quickly dispelled the rumors by telling the press she was dealing with a sickness. The reality star revealed her issue with uterine fibroids, or in layman's terms, a noncancerous tumor made of muscles and tissue that grow within the walls of the uterus.
Cynthia is not alone. The National Uterine Fibroids Foundation reports as many as 80 percent of all women have uterine fibroids, but the majority have no symptoms. Approximately 1 in 4 end up with symptoms severe enough to treat. Women can have one fibroid or several. They range in size from as small as an apple seed or as big as a grapefruit. Black women are at a higher risk. Per the National Women’s Health Network, statistics show Black women are three to five times more likely to develop fibroids than women of any other racial group. Fibroids in Black women also seem to occur at a younger age, grow more quickly and are more likely to cause symptoms according to WomensHealth.gov.
Some symptoms of fibroids are heavy bleeding, passing urine often, pain during sex, lower back pain and feelings of fullness in the stomach area. If you are experiencing any of these symptoms you should consult a doctor.
Thankfully fibroids are treatable and Cynthia will be just fine. Peter, on the other hand is missing somethng called compassion. We know Peter and Cynthia have had their share of marital issues in the past, but they seemed to be in a good place last season.
Through tears Cynthia explained to her husband what was going on with her body while he laughed and chastised her for eating too much and gaining weight. Cynthia went to the doctor to prove to her husband she wasn’t crazy. His concern was their sex life. Peter’s behavior was disgusting.
In Cynthia’s moment of vulnerability she needed a comforting shoulder to lean on. If Peter couldn’t do that he could’ve at the very least kept his mouth shut. Most men know that insulting your woman’s weight while she’s telling you about a medical condition is unacceptable.
Just in case any of the fellas need a reminder on what to do if your woman has fibroids, here it is: be there for her. Listen to her. Ask her what you can do to help. Tell her, “I’m so sorry. We’ll get through this together.” Hold her hand. Support her. It will mean a lot and make the issue slightly less difficult for her. This is one of those times that it’s not about you. How her condition will affect you should be at the bottom of your list of concerns.
Wishing Cynthia a healthy recovery and hoping Peter found some empathy.