As women of color, we have to work twice as hard to be taken seriously, and if you’re an introvert like me, you have it even harder. Luckily though, you don’t have to be Beyoncé or Michelle Obama to perfect the art of a lasting impression. All you need is confidence, a supportive group of good friends, and time to practice.
First of All, Command Respect
First and foremost, respect and love yourself. If you can’t do this, no one else will. Knowing exactly who you are and why you deserve the absolute best can take you further than anything else on this list. How do you do this via style? By walking tall and owning the skin you are in. Everything fabulous is exuded from within; your fashion is just the icing on the cake.
Always Try to Look Your Best
It may seem trivial to some, but when your ensemble is snatched and your face is beat to the heavens, it is an empowering experience. You feel invincible because there’s a confidence that can’t be shaken within when you know you look amazing. Use this as a gateway to work any room.
Make sure your pieces are tailored for that coveted “high end” fit, and always wear comfortable clothes and shoes that also look good. Never sacrifice cute for comfort.
Perfect Your “Walk”
Everybody has one, but you can secure and perfect yours by adding a little charm and swag to the mix. If you’re a staunch heel wearer, practice walking with an erect posture in the mirror with your heels on. Are you a top-handle bag lady? Okay, rehearse walking tall with your bag in your preferred hand, noting whenever you start to feel yourself hunch over.
The point is to make an authentic entrance wherever you go.
Improve Your Posture
Stand up! Shoulders back! Chin up! Before you conquer that walk, you must improve your posture. Deliberately slumped shoulders and a hanging head make you look sad and defeated. You also want to make sure your blood and energy are flowing properly, so keep your spine straight and your back sturdy.
Have a Signature Scent
While this is totally optional, your scent can speak volumes about your personal taste. If you are a novice when it comes to selecting fragrances, go to your local department store counter and do some fun research by just sniffing some fragrances. Most sales associates will be more than happy to assist in answering your questions. Plus they’re quite passionate about providing free samples.
Smize (Smile with your eyes)
Facial expressions can be a hit or miss. Learn how to take in your surroundings and smize like Tyra taught us. Not only will this create an air of mystery and excitement among those in your presence, you will learn to offer non-verbal communication in a positive, utmost way.
Show Gratitude and Kindness
Always say please, always say thank you. Whether written, typed or said in person, take the time to show others how grateful you are for their existence.