In today’s fashion sphere, women of all sizes, shapes and silhouettes are embracing their God-given bodies, and deciding to wear what they want, when they want. The support of women “doing them’ is endlessly found on Instagram, written about on blogs and showcased in modern day media where being yourself is actually in.
Women with curves no longer opt for dull colored pieces that take away attention from them. Plus size women no longer feel the need to put down the crop top; they’re picking them up faster than most petite women. But with all of the positive hoopla surrounding the newly found fashion freedom of women of all sizes, ages and statures, have we abandoned the concept of actually dressing for your body type? Is that even a thing anymore?
While shopping a few weeks back, I noticed myself picking up a few pieces at Zara to try on in the fitting room. Having a guy instinct that one of the dresses just wouldn’t work for my shape (it was an A-line, burnt orange short dress with a 70s arm flare that gave you today’s Coachella with a mix of Audrey Hepburn). It was on trend with the new wave of 70s penetrated fashion, and it looked horrible on me. But, I still bought it.
And then returned it.
Because after spending $50 on it, and trying it on again in my room without the rushing feeling of “should I buy it…yes…no?”, I took a long glance at my figure, draped in the unflattering dresses and realized that this was not the best look for my body type. I knew it, and yet, I let the “I can wear what I want, my body is beautiful” mantra trick me into believing that while my body is beautiful, and the dress was equally pretty too, I looked good in this garment. I didn’t.
I have a curvy, pear shaped body equipped with a full bottom. My thighs equally thick and my waistline significantly smaller than my hips. My hips are wide, very wide. So, I knew that picking up an A-line dress that even looked like it wouldn’t quite fall correctly on my curves was where I first had it effed up. But, there was this weird voice in the back of my mind telling me to just buy it, wear it and rock it confidently. But the truth is, no matter how much confidence you have in yourself, if you don’t feel comfortable, you won’t look good. You’ll be pulling, tugging and re-adjusting. I’ve been there and I’ve done that. I wasn’t trying to go back down that road again.
After two days of debating if I’d let my current weight loss journey be an inspiration to keep the dress on deck for a future hope of actually looking good in it, I took it back and instead, spent my money on two bags worth of fabulous workout clothes from Old Navy. They had a sale.
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